The breakthrough moment… is that moment when you come up against everything that IS possible… and you either choose it (even if it is REALLY uncomfortable) or you back away, hiding amongst the excuses that have kept you from going beyond it in the past.
How many times have you almost got there, only to stop yourself? Is it time to stop it… or do you love stopping you?
Are any of these scenarios familiar to you?
“I know I can do this, but before I do, I just need to…..(insert big thing that is your current ‘unsolvable obstacle’ here)…..”
“I would love to do this, but I’m just going to….. (insert small, unimportant list of busy work here)…..”
“I am procrastinating because I am not ready, I need to learn….. (insert your personal ‘less than’ comparison to as many guru’s in your industry as you can find here)…..”
“I know this is really important, but I have to do my client work first… (insert long list of client work and excuses for not working ON your business here)…..”
“I can’t. I am afraid of….. (insert your favourite set of fears and doubts that you use to distract yourself from moving forward here)…..”
I have coached hundreds of people in getting over the personal limitation that is stopping them from breaking through to creating what they truly desire – in business and beyond.
And here’s the thing… it’s never about needing more, learning more or doing more or waiting for something else to show up first.It’s always about BEING more!
Sound crazy? Here’s how it works. How many people do you know who are ‘wasting their potential’? You know it, everyone around them knows it, in most cases they know it too. And they are as frustrated as hell about it.
If this is you, there is a really simple solution. You make the demand of yourself that this changes NOW. That you aren’t going to listen to your brilliant but oh so limiting excuses anymore. You are going to take the action that will move you forward in leaps and bounds, rather than going round in circles.
And then you do it. Not from the space of doubt, lack or fear; but from the space of “I’m kick-ass and I’m going to rock this! What do I need to be or do different that will allow me to create this with ease?” Notice that being this energy puts a totally different spin on what’s possible?
That’s what I’m talking about when I say BE more. The truth is, you don’t need to be anything other than what you truly be. If you stop ‘wasting your potential’ you’ll make a much greater demand of yourself to deliver beyond your excuses.
You are ready. There is no better time. You know enough. You are more than enough. Go be everything you can be! Your life (and business) will have so much more ease when you embrace and acknowledge your true capacities rather than pretending they don’t exist. What could you play with today, that would change all possibilities with ease? It takes courage. And it’s SO worth it!
How do I know what to do with this particular entrepreneurs dilemma? I’ve been there – stopping myself by most of the options above and then some… and I’m not allowing myself to be pathetic or side-tracked anymore. Just so you know… You’re not alone here. AND also know there is a greater possibility available! Are you demanding it?
If you’d like some more tools for going beyond your breakthrough moment, you can contact Lisa Murray for a personal Breakthrough Session or listen in to her free New Energies of Business show on Blog Talk Radio.
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Have you noticed that business is changing rapidly and in unexpected ways? Over at BlissTribe we have started to explore the new energies that will form the platform for business in the future.
One of my roles as a business coach is to inspire you to have the awareness that there is a different possibility available from what you see right now. How do you see the people that you work with in your business? Are they a contribution or do you just wish they would be? Does it drive you nuts that they aren’t? Would you like to change all of this?
Contribution is essential to the New Energies Of Business TM. If I am employing anyone – for my team or as a supplier of services to my business, the first thing I look at is ‘will they be a contribution?’ Not, are they saying they will be a contribution (people always tell us what we want to hear!) but, ‘truth, will they be a contribution or will they always be draining the possibilities and under-delivering on the potentials?’
Our interaction with others offers the possibility for us to be the greatest contribution we can be… and for them to see what else is possible! When we choose to contribute to our fullest capacity then we are the drop in the ocean that creates ripples everywhere!
So, would you rather be creating tsunamis of contribution or are you happy to keep the status quo in your business? If you’d like to create and generate a whole lot more then YOU could start being the contribution more often!
What’s interesting about contribution is that if you are genuinely contributing, it is not about what you get back… you are just enjoying the process of contributing! Earlier this year I contributed a whole lot of writing to a project I loved the idea of. I didn’t expect anything back – I was happy to just receive the joy I in actually doing the writing.
It was fascinating and instructive to watch how this organization has contributed back to me ten-fold in many different ways since then. Especially as I didn’t have a point of view that they needed to do anything! Recently they also engaged me to contribute to a number of other writing projects that truly are fun and joyful for me! So, how does it get any better than that? Contributions lead us to possibilities we could never create through force!
Of course, contributing to your fullest capacity occurs with ease when you are using your talents, gifts and abilities. There is no stress, frustration or anger when you love what you are contributing – your contribution offers you joy. Joy is not currently an energy or word connected to business very often. This is changing. So, what contribution can you be to more joy showing up in your business?
And would you be willing to take another look at your team and see how you could create more ease of contribution for everyone simply by letting go of your expectations and opening the door for them to contribute their talents and abilities in ways you hadn’t considered?
There is so much we can consider, create and change around the energy of contribution! If you would like to explore this topic and more please join us for New Energies of BusinessTM at Peregian Beach on Monday 29 August. We’ll be talking contribution, creating value, loving your work and so much more!!
The recent global financial crisis has seen an increase in advice to employees to ‘make yourself indispensable’. A useful strategy for the employee maybe, but not always ideal for a smart small businesses!
Those same high performers have the capacity to hold your business hostage to their demands! So how do you have high performing team members without making them indispensable?
- Create a culture of high performance so that the ‘average’ level of performance is higher than expected in most businesses.
- Create an environment and a culture that offers your people incentive to stay and to perform at their best, without them feeling like they need to instigate the ‘power crazy’ aspects of being indispensable.
- Work with your team’s strengths – the person being ‘everything to everybody’ needs direction and support in working towards specific targets that benefit the business. Just because someone can, doesn’t mean they should!!
- Have awareness of people who are implementing the ‘indispensable strategy’ – they may not always be the ones you want to keep should the going get tough… (look for strong performance in their core job role, or move them to a more suitable role if you start to see previously undiscovered talents!!)
- Don’t be tempted to rely on the people making themselves indispensable – you are compounding the problem and teaching them to become a bottleneck. Encourage good delegation practices (starting with you!!) and ensure that those not performing at the higher levels know they need to step up – allow the bar to be raised!!
What do you think? Have you ever been held hostage by an employee who thought they were indispensable? What did you do to alleviate the risk to your business? How did you harness their enthusiasm and commitment to the business without creating other problems? Share your ideas here!